If you’re getting married soon, there’s a good chance that your mum will be by your side every step of the way. Mums are often integral to wedding planning; from the moment you announce the news to the time you say I do. Yet many wedding traditions are still geared towards the father/child relationship. With Mother’s Day in March, we’re throwing the spotlight on all the special mums out there. And with the help of expert wedding planner Liz Taylor, we’ve outlined some lovely ideas about how to honour your mum at your wedding day.
Borrow something from her wedding
People often hang onto items from their weddings for many years. If you’re lucky, your mum may be hiding away the most beautiful, authentic, vintage wedding dress in her closet so be sure you ask! Even if her wedding dress isn’t your style, she may be happy for you to use some of the fabric - either in your own dress or made into a garter or piece of jewellery. A lovely interpretation of this idea is to wrap some of the fabric around the stems of your bouquet, or create some gorgeous napkins/place holders for the top table.
You may also be able to borrow some of her accessories, or jewellery – which of course, handily doubles up as your ‘something borrowed’. Even if there are no items of clothing from her big day, you can include a nod to your mum in your décor by framing some old pictures and displaying them alongside your table plan.
Show off her talents at your wedding
Everyone one of those wonderful mums out there has a hidden talent, so it’s time to bring them to the fore. Whether she’s a baker, a singer, a dancer or an artist, celebrate her talents at your wedding by incorporating them into the big day.
If she has an artistic flair, then ask for her help in creating the invitations or order of service. Perhaps she has the voice of an angel, if so ask her to sing as you sign the register or to open the dance floor. Or if she has some great dance moves, there’s no reason why you can’t do a mother and daughter dance. Some mums are exceptional cooks so, why not include one of her recipes in your wedding menu, or have her bake your wedding cake.
Make wedding traditions work for you
Some wedding traditions date back to times when women and men had unequal standing in society. They’re often geared around the father of the bride, who arrives at the church with her, gives his daughter away, makes a speech and even gets to dance with her.
More and more couples are veering away from, or updating the customs of yesteryear, and there’s absolutely no reason why the mother of the bride can’t do any of these jobs on the day. If your mum is a confident speaker who better to address the guests than the woman who brought you into the world. If she’d rather not speak, then have her walk you down the aisle – or have both parents do this for you as a special moment for the entire family.
Say it with flowers
Bouquets don’t have to be limited to just the bride and bridesmaids, so why not have an extra special one made for your mum in the colours of her wedding outfit as a thoughtful touch. You could even incorporate some of her favourite blooms into your own bouquet to make it truly personal and show her how special she is.
Liz Taylor has been a wedding planning for over thirty years and is the founder and CEO of Manchester-based event management company, the Taylor Lynn Corporation, which celebrates its 25th anniversary in March, 2020.
Find out more at www.tlc-ltd.co.uk